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The price they pay is a lack of closeness and little real intimacy. Is Not Sex Many of us equate intimacy with sex in the belief that an intimate relationship is, necessarily, a sexual one.

The promiscuity and "sexual freedom" of recent years was caused partly by this false belief.

Many recovering people have trouble with relationships.

First, few of us grew up in emotionally healthy families where we could learn how closeness works.

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The most common complaints of recovering people concern their close relationships.

This ability to be vulnerable toward each other is the essence of intimacy.

Of course, even in intimate relationships that work well, there are times of much closeness and vulnerability, and times of more distance. Progresses Through Layers We can conceive of intimacy as the ongoing process of letting another person know and share more personal things about oneself. People whom one sees from time to time, in either causal or structured settings, will be allowed in to this layer.

Fear of upsetting the newly-sober loved one, and perhaps jeopardizing his sobriety, looms large, which makes it difficult to speak openly about feelings and reactions.

Together, the addict/ alcoholic and the partner follow an unwritten law, which tells them not to talk about anything that might be difficult or might feel uncomfortable.